Hello all,
My fiancé and I have been planning our wedding by ourselves and I just have to say that there has been non-stop drama when it comes to my family, while his has been supportive and haven't given any added stress to this process.
One person who I've been having issues with throughout this whole wedding planning process has been my mom. One of the bigger issues has been what she's wearing- out of all the decisions with this wedding this is one that I tried to put my foot down with and my MOH (who is also my sister) is telling me to let her wear whatever she wants.
I'm not wearing white, I'm wearing an ivory dress with a rose gold tulle layer underneath so there's a light pinkish hue. I've asked my mom not to wear white, ivory, or a pink close to mine and even though I've said this multiple times she continued to look at those colors and said that it shouldn't matter if she wears white because I'm not wearing it anyway. Ultimately, she chose a dress that is a light shade of pink despite me trying to get her to wear other colors. I showed a few people my dress and hers and they agree that it's similar to the color of my dress.
I brought this up again to my sister and she seemed disappointed and shook her head saying that she wouldn't care if my mom wore white or the same color to her wedding if she was getting married.
Ultimately, I feel like this is my big day and my feelings are being ignored by my mom who I had thought would also walk me down the aisle.
I've decided because of this, she can walk down the aisle in her pink dress with my nephews (since everyone was giving me stuff about not having them in the ceremony anyway) and I'll walk with my dad - I also figure I don't spend as much time with my dad and it would be nice having a moment with just us.
So the question is: How do I approach or break the news? Do I just tell her now, or do I just wait and until the day of or closer to the day of and have my nephews walk her down? Am I wrong for doing this?